If you’re involved in blended family communities on Facebook, like Stepmomming Ain’t Easy, I’m sure you’ve seen dozens of stepmom group abbreviations. When you first join, it can feel like you’re learning a new language! Hopefully this list helps you catch on more quickly than I did!

List of Common Abbreviations:

  • BD: Biological Dad/Birth Dad or Biological Daughter (usually followed with age as a number)
  • BF: Boyfriend or Biological Father/Birth Father
  • BIL: Brother-In-Law
  • BM: Biological Mom/Birth Mom
  • BS: Biological Son (usually followed with age as a number)
  • CA: Custody Agreement
  • CO: Court Order
  • CP: Custodial Parent
  • CPS: Child Protective Services
  • CS: Child Support
  • DF: Dear Fiancé
  • DH: Dear Husband
  • DIL: Daughter-In-Law
  • DW: Dear Wife
  • EOW: Every Other Week
  • EOWE: Every Other Weekend
  • EX: Ex-wife or Ex-girlfriend
  • FFIL: Future Father-In-Law
  • FH: Future Husband
  • FIL: Father-In-Law
  • FMIL: Future Mother-In-Law
  • FSD: Future Stepdaughter
  • FSS: Future Stepson
  • GAL: Guardian Ad Litem
  • HCBD: High Conflict Birth/Biological Dad
  • HCBM: High Conflict Birth/Biological Mom
  • HCSF: High Conflict Stepfather
  • HCSM: High Conflict Stepmother
  • IMHO: In My Humble/Honest Opinion
  • IMO: In My Opinion
  • MIL: Mother-In-Law
  • NCP: Non-Custodial Parent
  • NSMR: Not Stepmom Related
  • OH: Other Half
  • OP: Original Poster
  • PAS: Parental Alienation Syndrome
  • SAHM: Stay-At-Home Mom
  • SAHSM: Stay-At-Home Stepmom
  • SC: Stepchildren
  • SD: Stepdaughter (Usually followed by age as a number) or Stepdad
  • SF: Stepfather
  • SIL: Sister-In-Law
  • SK: Stepkids
  • SM: Stepmom
  • SO: Significant Other
  • SS: Stepson (Usually followed by age as a number)
  • TIL: Today I Learned
  • XBIL: Ex Brother-In-Law
  • XFIL: Ex Father-In-Law
  • XMIL: Ex Mother-In-Law
  • XSIL: Ex Sister-In-Law
  • XP: Cross-Posted in Other Groups

Hope this helps! Happy posting!